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It is a good platform to dispel all the myths around adoption and single parenting, she says. She wishes to experience this joy again and awaits her second child in October this year. Adoption can change multiple lives. The ride will not be easy, but will definitely be worth it. Amita broke all shackles and chose the path of love for her child, like every mother does. For this, we, at The Better India, salute her.
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If you wish to know more about Poornank, contact them here. Listen to our new podcast. Privacy Careers Advertise Contact Menu. Facebook-f Twitter Instagram Youtube. Get the best positive stories straight into your inbox! Only stories you love. No spam. Rating details. More filters. Sort order. May 25, Shannon Cate rated it it was amazing. We in the adoption reform movement have long known that big problems hide behind sentimental, idealistic rhetoric when it comes to adoption. Joyce does a fabulous job of bringing out the true complexity behind simplistic assumptions about the needs of world-wide "orphans" and what is in their best interest.
Too often, adoption fills the emotional needs of adoptive parents or worse, fills the pockets of baby brokers in the U. If you care about children's or their mothers' and fami We in the adoption reform movement have long known that big problems hide behind sentimental, idealistic rhetoric when it comes to adoption. If you care about children's or their mothers' and families' and communities' welfare, this is a must-read book. If you are considering adoption, this book should be required for your home study. If you are considering placing a child for adoption, let this book introduce you to information the agencies and maternity homes will not give you.
I found this book highly readable in spite of the sometimes labyrinthine complexity of the issues, policies and histories it explores. Kudos to Joyce. View 2 comments. Feb 22, Maureen Flatley rated it it was amazing. This is the best book about adoption ever written. Many excellent books have been written on the topic that address various aspects of adoption. However, Kathryn Joyce skillfully weaves together that history with today's grim realities on the subject. Though adoption has become a multimillion dollar industry it operates with almost no meaningful regulation by the US government.
Policy makers, hounded by a This is the best book about adoption ever written. Policy makers, hounded by adoption industry lobbyists and their allies, have bamboozled politicians and unwitting consumers creating a scenario of consumer abuses that would be soundly rejected in any other field. This lack of vigilance has translated into a global lack of confidence in US policy in this area that threatens to end this worthwhile social practice altogether. Joyce lays out the myriad ways in which adoption - whether private domestic, foster care or international adoption from a dizzying array of foreign countries - has become a big business at the expense of families - both birth and adoptive.
Every family who has adopted or is considering adoption should read this carefully researched sobering book about an important social practice run amok. In fact, it is a must read for anyone who cares about children, period.
To say it is filled with food for thought about our collective negligence as a country for allowing these abuses not just to continue but escalate would be an understatement. Apr 22, Marley rated it it was amazing. I really wish I could write book reviews instead of blather on about not much.
Full disclosure: I'm mentioned in the credits 4 times. Kathryn contacted me years ago when she was in the early stages of the book. I told her I didn't know much about international adoption outside of the murders of Russian adopatees in the US, but gave her a list of people who did. I'm happy to see I really wish I could write book reviews instead of blather on about not much.
I'm happy to see that some of them were sources and quoted. I do, however, know quite a bit about "Christian" adoption-for-conversion and the "orphan crisis" and have written about it a little bit particularly Haiti. Kathryn just nailed it. It's a book that I would have loved to have written. The chapter on Haiti is excellent. Most disturbing for me were the chapters on Liberia and Above Rubies, and the next chapter "Pipeline Problems.
International Adoption is a out-of control corrupt "social child welfare" practice that needs to die. In the old days the US and other countries raped less fortunate countries for natural resources and material goods IA, however, as operated by US adoption thugs usually under the guise of "christian" endeavor is I suppose more like date rape--child expropriation by "friends. IA is all about Christians and others who view the world through the lens of the middle class Protestant ethic. The amount of money it takes to complete one IA could be used to preserve dozens of families.
If course, if IA were to finally flop--and it seems to be for many reasons--the adoption industry will ramp up child expropriation at home. Apparently there is something quite horrible about children being reared by their own parents. Five stars, and if I could give more I would! View all 3 comments. Apr 25, Alison rated it it was amazing Shelves: non-fiction , religion. Finally, delivers me a truly excellent, thought-provoking and challenging book.
Immaculately researched and painstakingly balanced, the book is like a saunter along a maze of interlocking paths of good intentions, which all seem somehow, to lead inexorably to someone's hell. Joyce's book, however, isn't a blanket condemnation as much as an effort to raise the problems, in the hope of starting a conversation that might make things better.
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I've had the Child Catchers on pre-order for some time Finally, delivers me a truly excellent, thought-provoking and challenging book. I've had the Child Catchers on pre-order for some time, and immediately dropped my other reading when it arrived winking at me on the Kindle. Joyce is the only authoritative US feminist journalist covering religion, and as someone with a deep interest in how ideas about gender are both reflected in, and influenced by, religion, I tend to read everything she writes.
In the last five years, I have also noticed the immense growth in adoption, particularly from Africa, among evangelical "mommy bloggers", and I was looking forward to a more systematic coverage of where this particularly theological orientation came from. Joyce does cover this off, but the book is much more than that. She delves deeply into the phenomenon of US adoption from the s onward, both domestic and international.
Raising questions not only about the involvement of evangelical churches in adoptions, but of adoption agencies. Joyce did more than interviews for the book, and you can see why. The book is populated with people trying so hard to do good, in a very morally murky world. Joyce is at pains to present the view of all the participants - adoptive parents, "birthmothers", church representatives, adoption agencies, church and secular welfare workers, and of course, adult adoptees. I have no intention of summarising the content of the book in this review - go read it!
Going in to the book, I had few opinions about adoption. Like most people, I know adoptive parents, adoptees and a couple of people who relinquished children to adoption. I have enormous time for the adoptive parents I know. I have always assumed adoption is a "win-win" scenario in most cases.
But this presents an equation that seems somewhat equal - adults who wish to parent on one hand, and children without parental support on the other. But where the former group have economic power, and the latter do not, the result is more like a commodity market than a social program. A simple example of this is the growth of orphanages in the developing world. Orphanages attract very large amounts of funding from the West. Who doesn't give money to support an orphanage?
But orphanages are also widely known to be simply the worst environments to raise children. In Australia, we foster kids out because it is better for them acknowledging the many issues. But in places like Cambodia or Uganda, fundraising for an orphanage is much easier than attracting funding for a new social program. And, of course, adoptive parents want to rescue children from orphanages - which they know are terrible environments, and orphanages are easy for adoption agencies to work with.
So the orphanages remain as key parts of the strategy, even in countries making a concerted effort to develop more stable programs based on family support, foster care and domestic adoption. At the heart of Joyce's argument is one of numbers. Joyce points out brutally, however, that in actual fact the number of parents who want to adopt vastly outstrips the number of children available for adoption. The demand is coming from the West - for children, the strongest social need is for better support for families locally, not for someone to take the kids away.
Time and again, Joyce describes situations where, no matter how individuals and governments try to avoid it, the sheer amount of money that adoptive parents pour into a country distorts the local view of adoption - where communities calculate that aid and development money follows adoption, and giving up kids for the greater good becomes part of a strategy.
Myth 1: Only married, heterosexual homeowners can adopt children.
Joyce is largely successful in distinguishing between the situation of most individuals within this system and the broader dynamic, describing how several heroic adoptive parents navigate the system and the injustices with compassion and an attempt to find the best solution for the children in front of them, which may well be adoption in the U. Orphans created by the system, still, in many cases, remain orphans. She avoids, frankly, dwelling overly on some of the more sensational coverage - the killings of three adopted kids by evangelical parents in the US, which received a lot of media - are only mentioned in passing, for example.
She does cover with some clear fury the worst abuses associated with the following of the Above Rubies crowd, including not filing paperwork within the US, so children adopted from Liberia in particular, can be abandoned without legal consequence, while the children end up effective illegal immigrants, unable to go to college, or get a driver's licence. Perhaps the most devastating chapters, however, involve the stories of relinquishing parents in wealthy countries - the US and South Korea.
Joyce de-constructs how the anti-abortion pregnancy advisory services are placing an ever-increasing emphasis on convincing women to relinquish - using hefty doses of guilt, deceitful legal practice and stereotype what future can you offer? There are few solutions offered. Some glimmers of hope in more localised programs in countries such as Rwanda, and legal changes in South Korea.
But what seemed to me as the central issue - how do we better support children, and those who want children, in a non-market way - is not directly tackled by the book. Is this about building a global village? Do we have to accept that being part of a broader family is a better solution than transplanting kids from one nuclear family to another? I honestly don't know. There are a couple of quibbles - I always have some!. Given that the central question is that of what is best for a child, I wanted more experiences of adult adoptees, and perhaps in particular, those who felt more positively of their experience.
The shocking statistics covering the decline in white American women relinquishing are all measured in never-married - it would be nice to what extent the growth in de-facto couples parenting distort those - but really, one of the most important, and troubling, books I've read in a long time. Sep 24, Alex King rated it it was amazing. If you have thought about adopting a child, you owe it to yourself to read this book. If you have adopted a child, particularly in an international adoption, all the more so.
Please note that I'm not suggesting you will enjoy the ride, as the author deftly sucks you into a whirlwind of corruption committed in the name of rescuing orphans. You may find yourself trying to argue with the book's conclusions, with the excuse that these are only the horror stories, that most adoptions turn out well. Mo If you have thought about adopting a child, you owe it to yourself to read this book. Most of the time that's true, but ends don't justify means.
By describing the worst cases of children caught in a system that disregards their rights, 'The Child Catchers' devastates the rationalization that adoption saves orphans. Taking children from families in developing countries is tragically common; it's at best an inefficient method to make them better off, and at worst child trafficking driven by the profit motive.
This book will not be prescribed as a sleep aid to adoptive parents. It may cause nagging thoughts about whether what you were told about your child's origin is true enough. After reading, you may ask yourself how to live with the ambiguity of never knowing for certain. Perhaps you'll do what I did: initiate an other inquiry to find out what happened to the child you love so much, before the adoption.
Knowing the scale and scope of deceptions practiced against first families in developing countries, as well as adoptive families with the best intentions, may trouble the reader. As it should. There are troubling patterns repeated in the business of international adoptions, and Kathryn Joyce has documented them thoroughly. This book bothered me. Strongly recommended. May 31, Elizabeth Stolar rated it really liked it Shelves: adoption-related. I'm not really sure how many stars I want to give this book.
On the one hand, I am so glad I read it and I highly recommend it because it contained so much information, and gave some really good insight into some of the aspects that play into adoption. But on the other hand, there were some parts that were really glossed over, and some acceptance of groups like UNICEF that weren't really fully explored or addressed.
While Ms. Joyce points out some very troublesome and problematic aspects of adop I'm not really sure how many stars I want to give this book. Joyce points out some very troublesome and problematic aspects of adoption not just those that take place internationally, but also with in the U. At one point, she discusses a country that is dedicated to minimizing the number of out-of-country adoptions, and gives an example of a girl who would have been eligible for adoption, but was not, because her birthmother was known, but was in a mental institution.
Joyce implicitly approves of this outcome -- that the girl would likely lose all ties with her mother were she to be adopted abroad. Yet, obviously the mother is not able to care for her, and there's no indication that she will be able to do so in the future. How is the girl's situation better than being adopted abroad? Similarly, she seems to approve of measures that require that all efforts be made to first find genetic relatives of the child who will hopefully care for him or her, before the child is eligible for adoption, sometimes even requiring these efforts to go on for 6 months or more.
However, who is to say that a biological relative is the best caregiver for such a child?
In many circumstances, a birthmother may relinquish or abandon a child because the family disapproved of the pregnancy or may have been abusive or otherwise dysfunctional. What would be gained by seeking these same relatives, from whom the mother might have wanted to hide the pregnancy especially in some societies where an out of wedlock pregnancy is particularly shameful?
Another point, although minor, is that she references a conference about adoption and repeatedly refers to it as occurring at NYU Law School. This is incorrect. I have attended the conferences, and they are at New York Law School, which although it is still in New York, and is still a law school, is an entirely different law school than NYU's law school. There is an undertone to the discussion of this conferences that it is an elite conference, partially due to it's affiliation with NYU, but there is no such affiliation.
Again, I admit this is a minor point, and the conference attendees could still be referred to as "elite" in that they included many government officials and lawyers, policy makers, doctors, and professors who work in fields related to adoption. But the repeated incorrect reference was nevertheless slightly troubling. This book tackles a huge array of issues in adoption, some of which are more problematic than others, and Joyce sometimes conflates situations that aren't really similar.
Some issues are pointed out as problematic, when I don't believe they are necessarily so, or not nearly as much as she seems to believe. On the whole, however, the religious calling to adopt is a huge problem in that it creates this demand that cannot be fulfilled and leads people to adopt for the wrong reasons. People should not be adopting because they think they are saving a child, or because they think it will somehow curry favor with God, or because they think they are somehow performing a good deed.
They should adopt only because they want to parent a child. It is troubling how many people are becoming involved in adoption for entirely wrong reasons, and the results of this are too frequently tragic for everyone involved. In addition, the idea that adoption issues really stem from women's rights or lack thereof and women's inequality is very insightful, as is the observation that poverty, together with women's equality, are really the biggest issues to address when attempting to tackle the plight of children who live in dire conditions.
Feb 22, Kay rated it really liked it. The measure of a good nonfiction book for me is to make me think about something differently. It's fair to say that after reading Kathryn Joyce's book, I will never look at adoption in the same way again. Though I'd always thought about adoption as something admirable but difficult, I didn't really have a great sense of how deeply the evangelical Christian movement was committed to adoption as means of spreading the Gospel.
This is why you see tea party conservatives gather their multicultural f The measure of a good nonfiction book for me is to make me think about something differently. This is why you see tea party conservatives gather their multicultural families around them in campaign ads -- they're part of the deep mythos of rescuing children for God. This is all a nice idea, of course, but the demand created by evangelical families has created the incentives to do a lot of really terrible things.
Joyce carefully documents numerous instances of families who discover that the children they're adopting, often from abroad, often have living parents still, and the cultural disconnect about the permanence of American adoption often leads families to think they're merely sending their children away to American boarding schools rather than agreeing to give up their children for good. Joyce carefully does the math. The number of truly unwanted children who have no living relatives, even by the highest estimates, is far exceeded by the number of Christian adoption families.
She also dives into the motivation behind Crisis Pregnancy Centers -- that the idea isn't merely to convince young women to carry through with their adoptions but also to give those children up to the insatiable demand of Christian families who want to rescue children. This is all too often ineffective.
It's true when you look at the data.